Yes, you probably do. But don’t panic—this doesn’t mean you need to be the love police, nor should your policy be a romance-ruining roadblock. The goal is to maintain a positive workplace culture and avoid any sticky situations that could lead to favoritism, conflict, or even lawsuits.
Let’s dive into the details of why and how you should approach this delicate subject.
Workplace relationships can be tricky. On one hand, you want to foster a collaborative, friendly environment where people enjoy coming to work. But a romance between colleagues—especially when one is the other’s supervisor—can lead to perceptions of favoritism, bias, and all-around awkwardness.
Scenario 1: The Bias Blunder
Imagine this: During a team meeting, one of your top employees suggests organizing a lunch to thank long-standing customers for their loyalty. It’s a smart, thoughtful idea. Then, Jannet, who recently started dating her boss, Drew, chimes in with a different suggestion—sending out a long-winded email and spending the budget on random office perks like floral wallpaper, Chick-fil-A gift cards, and essential oil diffusers.
Instead of politely redirecting the conversation or weighing the pros and cons, Drew gushes about Jannet’s “emphasis on teamwork and camaraderie,” even suggesting that “Steven Covey would be proud.” The room goes silent as everyone wonders whether Jannet’s idea was really that brilliant—or if something else is going on.
This scenario conveys how a romantic relationship, particularly between a supervisor and their direct report, can lead to perceptions of favoritism. Even if Jannet had a genuinely good idea, Drew’s praise would likely still be viewed with skepticism by the rest of the team.
Scenario 2: The Breakup Blowup
Now, let’s consider Dana and Sharon, who have been dating for about a year. After a rough breakup, the situation at work quickly becomes uncomfortable for everyone involved. Dana, clearly upset, dramatically drops a box of Sharon’s things on her desk, making a scene in front of the entire office. A few days later, Dana decides to quit, telling HR, “It’s not a healthy environment for me anymore ever since Sharon and I broke up.”
In this scenario, the breakup not only disrupts the involved parties but also creates tension and discomfort within the broader team.
Both scenarios highlight how workplace relationships can impact not just the individuals involved but the entire team. Without a clear policy in place, these situations can lead to a toxic work environment, where favoritism, drama, and discomfort overshadow professionalism and collaboration.
When crafting your policy, consider the unique dynamics of your workplace. Here are a few key elements to include:
At BerniePortal, for example, our policy doesn’t prohibit romantic or sexual relationships but does include a clear warning regarding relationships between supervisors and their direct reports. The policy states that such relationships can lead to perceptions of favoritism or bias, which can undermine the trust and mutual respect essential to a healthy work environment. If a relationship occurs, one or both parties may be moved to different departments, and the relationship must be disclosed to management.
Consider including stipulations for how to handle breakups. For instance, your policy might state that arguments or dramatic displays of emotion are not acceptable in the workplace. Employees should be encouraged to maintain professionalism, regardless of their personal relationship status.
Creating or updating your relationship policy doesn’t have to be daunting. Here’s a quick guide to getting started:
By creating a thoughtful, clear policy, you can help ensure that your workplace remains a positive, productive space for everyone, while also protecting your organization from potential risks.
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